Hold Lightly, Not Tightly
Rev. Marcel Divine Emeka Okwara, CSsR
Homily for the Eighteenth Sunday in Ordinary Time, Year C
St. Alphonsus Catholic Church, Brooklyn Center, MN
Sunday, August 3, 2025
The central spiritual theme in our readings for this weekend is what the great St. Alphonsus Liguori called “distacco,” meaning radical detachment—the need to loosen our attachment to worldly goods. However, this detachment does not imply hatred or contempt for the world. The Catholic Church rejects puritanism and dualism entirely. We believe in the goodness of the world and everything in it. Material things, in themselves, are good. The proper biblical attitude toward worldly goods is to hold them lightly, even as we recognize and celebrate them.
Today’s Gospel has two related parts. In the first, we hear that someone in the crowd shouted to Jesus, “Teacher, tell my brother to share the inheritance with me.” What is going on here? It’s about a conflict over family inheritance. A widespread situation that is happening in many homes and families, in lawyers’ offices across the country, and sometimes in priests’ offices as we speak. Why does it happen? Someone in the family wants all of what their parents left behind. Someone does not want to share justly with the other siblings. I have seen families fight over inheritance. I have seen brothers and sisters engage in an endless war over family inheritance. In California, I witnessed two sisters who used to be greatly devoted to each other, torn apart by this very question. One of the sisters brought the issue to me to resolve. After a lengthy meeting and conversation with them, the younger sister refused to change her mind. They ended up in a lawyer’s office and a judge’s courtroom. The feud over their parents’ property severed their relationship.
What does Jesus say? His response was a question: “Friend, who appointed me as your judge and arbitrator?” It seems he does not want to be dragged into the dispute. Rather, he seizes the opportunity to teach a great spiritual lesson: “Take care to guard against all greed, for though one may be rich, one’s life does not consist of possessions.” If you can, please place these words on your screen saver. Put it on your refrigerator’s door. Put those words where you can see them regularly. Notice that Jesus is not condemning and denouncing possessions in themselves. He is not urging everyone to get rid of their possessions and property. He is rather telling everyone not to make possessions the foundation of life because life does not consist of possessions. He is telling us not to make the goods of this world our God. The great British scholar, writer, and theologian, C. S. Lewis, admonished, “Don’t let your happiness depend on something you may lose.” Amazing! Isn’t it? Enjoy the goods of this world, but don’t live for them and don’t base your life upon them. When it comes to earthly possessions, don’t cling to them with a desperate grip. Hold them lightly, not tightly. Don’t become sad, depressed, and frustrated when you don’t have them. And if you had them and then lost them, do not think your life has come to an end. Don’t see suicide as an option. Remember this basic spiritual truth: Everything I have in this life will finally not be mine. It is either I lose them while I am still alive, or I will leave them behind for someone else and journey to God. So, hold the things of this world lightly and not tightly. The only reality worth holding tightly is God. Only God is everlasting. Everything else comes and goes.
After that, Jesus narrates a very devastating parable of a man who wants to build bigger barns. He is like a hedge fund manager, a private equity investor, a very successful businessman. He is rich, but wants to be richer. He is a millionaire, but wants to be a billionaire. He wants to tear down the old barns and build something bigger to accommodate his wealth. The man in this story is the symbol of obsessive greed. He has a lot but still wants more. To him, God addresses, “You fool, this night your life will be demanded of you; and the things you have prepared, to whom will they belong?” (Luke 13:20). What is your life all about? What is the meaning of your life? If your life is required of you today, what would you show the Lord? Your bigger barns? Your real estate? Your growing business? Your fat bank account? Your many degrees? The important people that you know? Is that all? Trust me, you don’t want to go there with simply bigger barns.
Now, what’s the cure to obsessive greed? Don’t look too far for the answer. Look at the words of today’s second reading: “If you were raised with Christ, seek what is above, where Christ is seated at the right hand of God. Think of what is above, not what is on earth.” St. Paul is not asking us to love spiritual things alone and to hate the material world. Paul was a good Jew and had nothing against the material world. He is simply asking us to value God supremely. Once God is the supreme value of your life, you will know what to do with whatever worldly good you may attain. Whenever we pray the Our Father, we say, “Hallowed be your name.” What does it mean? It means: Lord, may your name be held holy. The Greek word for holy is “kadosh,” which means “other,” “set apart.” Whenever you say, “Our Father, who art in heaven, hallowed be your name…” you are saying, “Among the many things I pursue in this life, God is without competition. May God not have any competition. May I not allow work, entertainment, politics, race, nation, wealth, honor, power, etc. compete with God in my life.” C. S. Lewis said, “Nothing you have not given away will ever really be yours.” Cardinal Francis George, right before he died, said, “The only thing you take with you in the life to come are the things you have given away on earth.” What you have in the heavenly realm is nothing other than the love you cultivated here below. It is not bigger barns filled with stuff. It is not the wealth or power you acquired and procured. The only thing you have in the heavenly realm is the love you cultivated here below.