Confronting Reality: Jesus’ Example in the Face of Suffering and Death
Rev. Marcel Divine Emeka Okwara, CSsR
Homily for Palm Sunday of the Lord’s Passion, Year C
Church of St. Bridget of Minneapolis, MN
Sunday, April 13, 2025
How do you think a terminally ill parent would feel if, after informing their children of their impending mortality, they immediately began discussing the distribution of their assets? How do you think a terminally ill man would feel if, after informing his brothers and sisters at a family reunion that his doctors had told him he didn’t have much time, they began to discuss their place in his life and who would inherit the larger share of his wealth right in front of him? How do you think a woman who has been wrongly accused by an angry mob of conspirators and is facing a death sentence would feel if, after her siblings learned of her fate, they started arguing among themselves, in her presence, about her house, cars, stock portfolio, and other investments she had acquired? Without mincing words, none of them would be pleased. In fact, to the highest degree, they would be disappointed.
Why am I presenting these different but similar scenarios? It is because that is what we see at the beginning of the Passion story according to St. Luke. Jesus and his disciples had gathered together to celebrate the Passover. After taking his place, Jesus began to give his valediction, that is, his farewell speech to his disciples. In the process of doing that, he instituted the great sacrament of the Eucharist. He also foretold his betrayal. What follows? What’s his disciples’ response? They began to argue among themselves “which of them should be regarded as the greatest” (Luke 22:24). Their Master and Lord had just told them that he doesn’t have much time left. He had just announced to them that one of them would betray him. I get it! For a moment they did debate among themselves who the betrayer could be. But they didn’t dwell on it much longer before switching over to mundane thing— who is the greatest among them.
What do you think is the reason why the early followers of the Lord did not spend much time debating, questioning and considering who among them is about to betray their Lord? St. Luke did not tell us; however, my speculation is that engaging in such an exercise is too probing and too intrusive. Spending time talking about the impending death of someone they had accepted as “the Christ, the Son of the living God,” goes too deeply and beyond what is comfortable. It is easier to talk about fun things than to confront the “wretchedness” of human existence. It is more comfortable to talk about earthly greatness than to dwell on the great question about death and dying. According to the great French scholar and Catholic writer Blaise Pascal, most of us, most of the time, distract ourselves from attending to the great questions about God, life, death, dying, sin, and the meaning of life. To avoid considering those realities, we engage in what he called in his beautiful French “divertissement,” that is distraction or amusement. Pascal said we use activities and social interactions to avoid confronting basic existential questions and the anxieties of existence. He said humans are prone to melancholy and anxiety when faced with the vastness and meaninglessness of the universe, so we seek distractions like social interactions (gossiping, superficial conversations, and other social activities) to avoid introspection. We seek material things (focusing on acquiring wealth, possessions, and status) to distract from the search for meaning. We engage in intellectual pursuits (engaging in abstract thought or intellectual debates) without real commitment to understanding the truth. We pursue self-indulgence (engaging in pleasures and distractions) to numb the pain and suffering of life.
In many ways, we all engage in “divertissement.” When you bring up issues like death, human suffering, repentance, the fleeting nature of wealth, power, pleasure, honor, and other human pursuits in conversations with friends and family, see how quickly the discussion is changed to something more palatable. Often, someone in the group interjects with the phrase, “Okay, enough of the gloom and doom…” I have been in discussions where important subjects like these were immediately discontinued because people are uncomfortable engaging in them. Instead, we talk about sports, entertainment, the stock market, sweet memories of the past, etc. I believe the disciples of the Lord found his farewell speech too troubling to handle, hence the switch to talking about more mundane things. In a clinical setting today, their overall attitude and response to Jesus would be considered very bad spiritual care.
What is the cure to the problem of “divertissement” (distraction)? Blaise Pascal’s proposed solution is not to merely eliminate distractions, but rather to acknowledge these realities, acknowledge the emptiness of existence, acknowledge the transient nature of wealth, power, honor and pleasure, and afterwards, to seek solace and meaning through faith and a relationship with God. Avoiding discussions about death and dying will not exempt one from its inevitability. Did Jesus seek distraction and avoid discussing his destiny? Not at all! Over and over again, he spoke of his impending betrayal, suffering, and death. At the Passover meal, his first words, after taking his seat were, “I have eagerly desired to eat this Passover with you before I suffer” (Luke 22:15). He acknowledged his fate and spoke about it. After the institution of the Eucharist, he says, “Behold, the hand of the one who is to betray me is with me on the table; for the Son of Man indeed goes as it has been determined; but woe to that man by whom he is betrayed” (Luke 22:21-22). In his agony in the Garden, he prays, “Father, if you are willing, take this cup away from me; still, not my will but yours be done” (Luke 22:42). As we can see, Jesus does not engage in distractions to avoid difficult subject-matter. He confronts them head-on and, most importantly, trusts in his Father.
But does this imply we become preoccupied with the reality of death? Does this mean the only topic worth of discussion is the great questions? Not at all! We exist in the world, and in this world, numerous events are unfolding around us. It is acceptable to discuss these distractions. Pascal is not advocating for the complete elimination of “divertissement.” Essentially, he suggests that true happiness and fulfillment cannot be attained in fleeting pleasures and distractions, but rather in confronting the realities of life and finding meaning in something beyond ourselves, such as faith and God. In John’s Gospel, Jesus says, “You have faith in God, have faith also in me” (14:1).