We Are Not Better Than Those Who Have Passed

Rev. Marcel Divine Emeka Okwara, CSsR

Homily on the Commemoration of All Souls

St. Alphonsus Catholic Church, Brooklyn Center, Minnesota 

Sunday, November 2, 2019

Today, we remember the souls of all the faithful departed. We remember our dads, moms, sisters, brothers, sons, daughters, friends, and colleagues who have gone before us with faith, hope, and trust in the promise of eternal life. Why do we remember them specially today? We do so because they are part of our lives, are dear to us; and we miss them. But most importantly, our remembrance of them today is rooted in the age-long Catholic ecclesiology and tradition which avers that there are three states of the Church— the Church Militant, the Church Suffering or Penitent, and the Church Triumphant. The Church Militant consists of all Christians on earth— you and I who still struggle against sin, the devil, and darkness of this world. The Church Suffering consists of those Christians currently in Purgatory. The Book of Revelation 21:27 tells us that nothing unclean will enter the city of God— heaven. Therefore, the Church suffering are those Christians who were not totally unblemished at their passing away from this life. They are going through a process of purification. The Church Triumphant are those who have seen and experienced the beatific vision and are in heaven. They have made it, and have taken their seats at the table of the Lamb. 

The solemnity of all the Saints which we celebrated yesterday, and the commemoration of All Souls, which we are celebrating today highlights one important thing— that there is communion and fellowship between the living and the departed. If our loved ones are in the company of the saints in heaven, they pray for us, and we ask for their help and intercession. If they are in purgatory, we pray for them, for their purification, for God’s mercy and for their release. 

But sisters and brothers, I do not want you to celebrate today in fear or in sorrow. I do not want anyone in wonderland wondering if our moms, dads, sisters, brothers, sons, daughters, friends, uncles, etc made it to heaven. Do not let today be a sorrowful day for you. You can relive the times and moments you had with your loved ones. You may even cry if that’s the prevailing emotion. However, do not let this day be a day of sorrow or sadness. I hope you can make a distinction between a momentary show of emotion like crying and being in a state of sadness or sorrow. The reasons why I am urging against sadness or sorrow is traceable to all the readings today. In the first reading taken from the Book of Wisdom, we are told that “the souls of the just are in the hand of God, and no torment shall touch them.” In the eye of the foolish, they seemed to be dead, their passing away thought as an affliction, and their departure from this world considered as destruction. But the Book of Wisdom assures us that “they are in peace.” Now, what actually gives us the hope and confidence that our departed relatives are in the hand of God and in peace? The second reading taken from the Letter of St. Paul to the Romans (5:5-11) declares that God proves and demonstrates his love for us “in that while we were still sinners, Christ died for us.” By the shedding of the Precious Blood of Jesus Christ, we have been reconciled to God, justified, saved, blessed and delivered. So, instead of being fearful or anxious, let us celebrate God’s love and mercy and also boasts of the reconciliation we have received from him through his Son, Jesus. 

Are you still unconvinced? Listen to the best part! In today’s Gospel from John 6:37-40 Jesus says, “Everything, (which means every person) that the Father gives me will come to me, and I will not reject anyone who comes to me, because I came down from heaven not to do my own will but the will of the One who sent me.” Although we consider them dead, but our departed relatives did not actually die; they only returned to Jesus and to our Creator. They only changed location. If they believed and accepted Jesus as their Lord and Savior while on earth, they will find in him a merciful Judge. 

Obviously the death of a beloved one brings some sadness and grief to us, however, we should not be sad for them. Do not think that we are better than those who have passed. Surely we miss them. We wish they are still here with us. Since my mom passed away in 2014, I have never stopped wishing she is still around, that I can still call her on telephone and visit her in Nigeria. But one thing I have never done is to consider myself luckier than her. And you should not consider yourself luckier or better than those who have passed away. Do you know why? Because you and I must plod on this dark, sinful, and hurtful world; but not our departed loved ones. We will endure sickness and pain, abuse and shame, disappointment and hatred, but not for them. We will grow weary and even come close to despair; we will be maligned and dismissed; we will be treated unjustly and arrogantly; our leaders will hurt us and lie to us, but not for them. Therefore,  do not be sad for them. Do not weep for them. We are still poor; they are rich. We are fearful; they are secured. We still suffer; they are healed everlastingly. Our souls are still yearning and longing for God, they are already with God. We still hope and pray; they are already enjoying full friendship with God. We still strive, they are already fulfilled. We aspire for perfection; they are perfect already. We still visit the doctor for medical treatment; they are finally free from all kinds of sickness. While we strive not to lose, they have gained everything. 

Who Is Accepted By God?

Rev. Marcel Divine Emeka Okwara, CSsR

Homily for the 30th Sunday in Ordinary Time, Year C

St. Alphonsus Catholic Church, Minneapolis, Minnesota 

Sunday, October 27, 2019

For regular churchgoers, whenever you hear the word “Pharisee” you probably have a negative impression of the Pharisees. We think of them as the bad guys who opposed and crucified Jesus. But in Jesus’ time, the Pharisees were the good guys. They were the Jewish religious leaders respected by many. They were the leaders of the society. They were the ones that people followed and listened to. In the minds of Jesus’ listeners, the Pharisees were good. On the other hand, tax collectors were considered bad by all and sundry. Why? After the Roman empire conquered Israel, the people of Israel were mandated to pay taxes to Rome. To ensure that taxes were collected, the Roman government hired local people— Jews, to collect taxes. So, tax collectors were Jewish men who were in charge of collecting taxes from the Jews and sending them to the Romans who were oppressing the Jews. Now, tax collectors did not only collect the required amount, but also collected more for themselves as well. Of course, they had the Roman soldiers that protected them as they exploited their own people. After remitting the required amount to the Roman government, the surplus was divided among themselves (tax collectors and soldiers). This made most of the tax collectors rich and corrupt. Unfortunately for them, everyone in the community knew about their corruption and wickedness. Fellow Jews hated and despised them because they were working for their oppressors—the Romans, and also enriching themselves from it. 

In today’s Gospel (Luke 18:9-14), Jesus told a story that will shock “those who were convinced of their own righteousness,” who trusted in themselves that they were righteous and then looked down on others with contempt. The story is about two men who went to the Temple to pray. One was a Pharisee (seen by many as good), and the other, a tax collector (seen by many as bad). After taking his position, the pharisee prayed, “O God, I thank you that I am not like the rest of humanity— greedy, dishonest, adulterous— or even like this tax collector. I fast twice a week, and I pay tithes on my whole income.” Meanwhile, the tax collector standing from a distance and refusing to look up to heaven beat his chest and prayed, “O God, be merciful to me a sinner.” Concluding his story, Jesus said that it was the tax collector who went home justified and not the pharisee. “For  whoever exalts himself will be humbled, and the one who humbles himself will be exalted.” 

When the Pharisee got into the temple, did he pray to God? No! Jesus said he spoke the prayer to himself and not to God. There are many things he could have prayed about. He could choose to pray for wisdom or for the grace to be holy and to honor God. He could have confessed his sins. He started his prayer well “O God, I thank you…” but then ruined it when he declared himself better than the rest of humanity and most especially the tax collector. In essence, he is saying that he is morally good, not like other evil people. Not corrupt. Don’t take money from other people. Not an adulterer. That he is sexually pure. That he is not a bad man, but a good person. He is simply saying, “Thank you God for I am so good, not like that sinful tax collector over there. I fast and pay tithes on all my income.” 

Sisters and brothers, fasting is good. Paying tithes is equally good. The Pharisee is the kind of man that every pastor will like to have as a church member. He is a moral man. He keeps all the church’s laws. Fulfills all the holy days of obligation and gives 10 percent of all his income as tithes. He has the right relationship with the opposite sex. He is not corrupt. He is respected by all. He is a good church folk. But here is the problem with his prayer. It is all about himself, and not about God. The focus of his prayer is who he is and what he’s done. It has nothing to do with what God has done for him or who God is. He is a proud and arrogant man. The center of the world is him, not God. Although he mentions God in his prayer, but it is not about God, but himself. He has one audience— himself. 

What about the tax collector? No one likes the tax collector. He’s the one that when he walks into a room, everyone looks at him with disdain. Now he goes to the temple. The people in the temple are probably the very people he is using the Roman soldiers to extort and steal money from. So, he stood far off, away from people, not minding them and what they think about him. The tax collector has one audience— God. He stands there, beats his chest (a sign of remorse), and refuses to look up to heaven or look around to avoid distraction. He bends his head and prays—“O God, be merciful to me a sinner.” What kind of person is the tax collector? He is humble! Did he say something about himself in this prayer? Yes! He said he is a sinner who needs one thing from God— mercy! 

From worldly perception, the tax collector has power, money and wealth. But what does he not have? God’s approval! He knows he has done wrong. He knows he is under God’s judgment and knows that God does not approve of his behavior. He knows it and does not make excuses for his sins. On the other hand, the Pharisee who is confident that God accepts and approves him fails to realize that pride, arrogance and looking down on others is sinful. To belittle others is to belittle God who is also in them. In the end, it is the tax collector who went home with God’s approval and acceptance. So, who will be accepted by God? It is the humble one. Has the Pharisee done some good and moral things? Yes! But will God accept those who have done some good and moral things nevertheless lack humility? Today’s Gospel says no. Only the humble will be exalted. A proud Christian does not know the God he or she claims to be serving. If in Jesus God the Creator humbled himself, became one of us in all things except sin, who do you think you are to exalt yourself above everyone else? 

I Recommend Prayer!

Rev. Marcel Divine Emeka Okwara, CSsR

Homily for the 29th Sunday in Ordinary Time, Year C

St. Alphonsus Catholic Church, Minneapolis, Minnesota 

Sunday October 20, 2019

“Prayer is the key, prayer is the key, prayer is the master key. Jesus started with prayer and ended with prayer, prayer is the master key.”

I grew up in Nigeria singing the song above. During family prayers, I joined in singing it. During Mass, fellowship, and other prayer meetings in the church, I sang along with others. It’s a common song in Nigeria that communicates three things: one, the vital importance of prayer; two, the fact that Jesus prayed from the beginning of his earthly ministry till the end; three, that as his disciples we should pray at all times like he did.

Friends, the central theme that runs through the readings today is prayer. The first reading taken from the Book of Exodus highlights the power and efficacy of prayer. After a certain nation, Amalek, declared war against Israel, Moses asked Joshua to take some men from the land and go out and engage Amalek in battle. He promised that he, Moses, will be standing on top of the hill with the staff of God in his hand. When the war began, Moses went with Aaron and Hur to the top of the hill. Now, as long as Moses kept his hands raised up (a symbol of prayer), Israel was winning. But whenever he lets his hands rest, the Amalekites were winning. With the passage of time, Moses became tired of keeping his hands raised. So, Aaron and Hur quickly put a stone in place for him to sit. After that they held and supported his hands, one on the left and the other on the right. With this, Moses’ hands were constantly raised till sunset leading to an overwhelming defeat of Amalek and a resounding victory for the Israel. 

No one goes through life without an encounter with difficult times. It’s either they come to us or we dabble into them. When it happens, depending on what the nature of the problem is, we seek for solutions. The message from the first reading and Gospel is that we include prayer as part of the solutions. So, if you are going through a quarter-life, mid-life or end-of-life crisis, I recommend prayer to you. Did you experience a heart-wrenching breakup from a relationship you invested so much into? I recommend prayer as part of your healing solution. Are you yet to recover from a painful divorce? I recommend prayer.  Did you lately experience failure in a project you worked so hard for? Why not try prayer? Did you suddenly lose a job you expected to be in till retirement? I recommend to prayer to you. Are you going through grief due to loss of a loved one or loss something very important to you? I recommend prayer to you. Are you one of those, like me who struggle with change? I recommend prayer to you. Change is always a hard thing to accept. In 2015, all the priests in this parish that many of you had got used to were transferred at the same time. Then four years later, what happened in 2015 happened again. I can understand if you are angry and frustrated by this constant change. But rather than take your anger on me or the other priests who were newly assigned here, I recommend prayer to you. Believe me, coming here was very difficult for me— not because the people of Minnesota are not wonderful people, but due to the weather. Left to me, I will rather stay in California. Just as you don’t determine the priests that serve you, I don’t determine the people I serve or where I go. If you are feeling frustrated by any kind of change, by the constant change around you, remember my recommendation— prayer. If you go to your doctor, he might recommend a medicine, an anti-depressant. But for me, I recommend prayer. Pray at all times and for different reasons and for different situations. If you are tired of praying, ask others to pray for you. Book Masses. Whenever I look at the Mass intentions, it is mostly for our departed loved ones. As you book Masses for your loved ones, remember to book Masses for your own intentions. If you are tired of praying just as Moses was, ask others to pray for you. Request for Masses for a private intention. The Mass is the highest form of prayer. 

Now, while we pray during difficult times, Jesus also urges us to pray at all times— good and bad times. Today’s Gospel taken from Luke 18:1-8 is about the necessity to pray always without becoming tired. It is also about persistence in prayer. Like the unnamed widow in the Gospel, we should never give up the habit of praying. We should pray in season and out of season whether our requests are granted or not. Prayer of asking and making request is just one type of prayer. There is also prayers of adoration, thanksgiving, love and contrition. Prayer is the key and the master key because it connects us to God. It helps us remain in God. In John 15:5, Jesus says, “Whoever remains in me, and I in him, will bear much fruit.” If you want to remain in the Son of God; if you want to be a good fruit bearing Christian, then pray frequently. Pray at all times because your salvation partly depends on it. 

In today’s Gospel, Jesus asks us to “Pay attention to what the dishonest judge says,” but I also want us to pay attention to what the Lord himself says at the end of this Gospel, “But when the Son of Man comes, will he find faith on earth?” If we give up praying simply because our intentions were not granted exactly as we prayed, he will not find faith on earth. If we stop praying just because we have everything we want in life and don’t see or have a need to pray, he will not find faith on earth. If we give up praying because we don’t have the time, he will not find faith on earth. If we don’t pray because we are tired, he will not find faith on earth. If we leave prayer to feelings and convenience, he will not find faith on earth. If you don’t pray just because you are angry and upset with God, then Jesus will not find faith on earth. If you don’t pray because you are disappointed with the Church leaders or with someone associated with the Church, Jesus will not find faith on earth. If we only pray verbally but not attitudinally, he will not find faith on earth. Our life should be a life of prayer and we should live like people who pray. Whatever your situation may be now, remember prayer. That’s my prescription for you.